It was from a woman who was responding to a question about why “bad boys” are so successful.

What she said was that women are great bullshit detectors. Their entire lives, they have been assailed by men who want primarily to get sex from them. The men use all kinds of deceit and trickery. The worst ones are the “nice guys” who are trying to pretend that “aren’t like that,” and who want to be friends, but who in reality are just seeking a stealthier way to get them into bed. Even if their intentions are ultimately good, their approach is one of deceit. They are “being nice” to accomplish the goal. They are not being honest.

The “bad boys” who wink at girls and say something crude are at least being honest about their intentions. They want to fuck. They might — might— be interested in a relationship later, but right now they just want to fuck. They are letting the woman know that they find her attractive and desirable, and that they are good to go. Women almost always say they value “honesty” very highly in a relationship, so when they find a man who is clear about what he wants, who is honest even if crude, and who finds them desirable, it appeals to them. It’s exhausting to be playing games all the time.

She said, “If you want her to lick your balls, then grow some.” In the end, it’s better to be honest about what you want than to pretend you don’t and try to deceive her into giving you what you’re after. You’d be surprised how many women respond to honesty. When you ask for what you want, you often get it, and much quicker than playing the “nice guy” game. And if you don’t, you can move on quickly. Don’t play the “nice guy.” Be the “honest guy.” That’s what is really nice.