Yeah, they look awesome in pictures and outfits look amazing and can get the attention of most guys (and girls) but they can actually be a pain.

Literally, a physical pain.

A good friend of mine struggled with this. It was a physical and mental pain for her. (I won’t post any photos of her because I feel thats her body/privacy but her breast size was similar to Ariel’s in the photo above). She still has permanent bra marks on her shoulders from having huge boobs. Her boobs were that heavy in her bra. I’ve never seen that before and it was eye opening for me and honestly, shocking. (I’m not flat chested but I’m no Kardashian either). She often referred to her boobs as a curse.

She got a reduction when I was in college and I saw her confidence rise. She started buying more shirts, she didn’t complain of the constant neck and back pain, she hated her huge bras that were always uncomfortable and hard to find back then. We went shopping (only a few times, I swear!) together and she was ecstatic about the bras that were now in her size. She couldn’t believe how much better the bra designs were in her now cup size. I was happy to see her so excited about it.

After the reduction, she slept better because she could comfortably sleep on her stomach (she said before the reduction, it felt like trying to sleep on huge water balloons imbedded in her chest and put a lot of pressure on her rib cage and lungs). She said sex was uncomfortable and it caused her some problems in dating. Not to be graphic but she said when she was on top, the bouncing motion was embarrassing and uncomfortable for her and being on the bottom for her was better but if the guy laid on top of her to kiss her, he had to press into her chest and basically squish, suffocate her just to get a kiss during sex. She said, the constant attention towards her boobs got old REALLY fast. People were constantly staring at her wherever she went and eye contact was rare when she was out and about.

Even every day things and stuff that should’ve been fun for her became annoying to her. Putting a seat belt on, giving people hugs, changing her bed sheets, riding roller coasters or any ride, finding jackets and coats that would button or zipper over her chest, she tried taking up kick boxing, water aerobics, cycling, a pottery class to try and relieve some of her personal anxieties and she said she left more frustrated then she went in. She loved horses but never took lessons because she was embarrassed and the potential neck and back pain. She would often talk about having kids but was worried her boobs would double in size and that really worried her.

I really had NO idea that some people with big boobs struggled with this stuff. That it could cause this much damage in someone’s life. After her reduction, I saw her blossom in almost every aspect of her life and most importantly her confidence and self love was rising.

So, my point is, while boobs are beautiful and squishy and glorious, they aren’t for everyone. Behind that big busty women in the selfie or photo may be a woman struggling with sleep, confidence, dating, and so much more. So, while some girls are dying for big boobs and may be jealous of the big boobed girl in school or work, maybe think twice about it before you get envious or even get plastic surgery..