No, Honest communication is important and its best needed to know how you felt.of course ..not. In a healthy relationship, it is always okay to ask for what you want.
OR use this magic words “I think the fact that you smoke/drink is affecting your health” .. “The more time goes by the more likely it is that it will have a serious impact on you and my plan is to stick around long enough to witness that. It bothers me that you are doing something that is bad for you.”
Dont ask to stop. In fact, clearly state you expected nothing and that u just wanted him to know.
Sure should make them uncomfortable.
There’s a catch, of course. It is also okay for her/him to say no.
Arguably If there is something that is important to you in a partner, or something that is a deal breaker for you, you will have far better relationships and far more happiness if you date partners who are compatible with you, rather than dating partners who are incompatible with you and then trying to get them to change into compatible partners.
We cannot demand that others change to accommodate what we want, even if we believe that what we want is in their interest. We can only change ourselves. This is the paradox of love: you can’t control another person’s behavior and yet love will transform you.
The trick is to take people exactly as they are and communicate who we are as clearly and honestly as possible so they can do the same for us.
Opinion that Counts. 
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