If the person talks too much and tries to dominate the conversation with their words, it is because they are trying to monopolize your thought processes. A manipulator will always try and out-talk you by constant dominance of a conversation.

Defi: A manipulator is a person that deliberately aims to create an imbalance of power. A manipulator’s goal is to exploit the victim to serve their agenda.

Manipulators share five common characteristics:

1. They are skilled at finding and exploiting your weaknesses.
2.They are skilled at using your weaknesses against you to take control of your thoughts, feelings and interpretations.
3.They are able to shrewdly convince you to give up part of yourself in order to serve their self-centered interests.
Once they succeed in taking advantage of you, they will likely repeat the process to continue getting what they want.
4.They do all the above while pushing the limits of your tolerance and testing the waters to make sure they don’t cross that line and “break their toy”.

TO SPOT A MANIPULATOR QUICKLY, Here are some common behaviors to look out for:
* seeking to make you feel guilt and regret. This behavior makes you feel bad about acting based on your own values.
*seeking to turn your behavior into what the manipulator perceives it to be. Assumption Clause
*telling you what someone else said is the right thing to do.
* The manipulator wants you to feel sympathetic for them so as to get your guard down for further manipulation.
*Self-Pity: they can make you feel sorry for them, you’ll be vulnerable to manipulation.

Everyone behaves manipulatively at some point in their life. We’re only human. However, a manipulator is someone that has turned this behavior into a habit, a part of their character. Manipulators have no desire or reason to want to change. I consider it to be a mental disorder that society has yet to recognize as such.
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Manipulators feed on weakness. Know yourself, understand your triggers. Are you prone to guilt? This may be the most common one, because we’ve all been controlled as children with this one – essentially trained up on it. Some manipulations are small, some are huge. One that many people experience is the intimate relationship one. “If you don’t stay, I’ll hurt myself.” Of course you’re not responsible for their mental health. And generally this is an empty threat. Besides, if they are that deeply mentally unbalanced, they need professional help.

A few strategies for when you cannot get away from the manipulator.

Learn how to set boundaries. Practice maintaining your limits

Practice saying ‘No’. Practice when it doesn’t make a difference, so you feel comfortable saying it. Let it be a natural part of what you say. Take the guilt away. You have as much right to say No as the next person. Own your power.

Stop interacting. Your emotion will feed their power. When they start, you stop rewarding with your participation.

Remain silent, but keep eye contact so they know you are listening, but not cowed. (This also works on the phone, when someone is going off on a rant) Breathe deeply, remain as calm as possible. Let them rage, until they run out of steam. After a while, they will realize they sound ridiculous.

Remove yourself from their presence, go somewhere you cannot be followed (if possible). Depending on the situation, you may be able to point out the emotion. “I hear you’re really angry right now. I think it would be best to take a break and reconvene when we’re all calmer.” Sometimes, it’s safer and wiser to stay silent, and then excuse yourself to your room, the toilet, or to go outside for a short walk.

Practice not taking on the guilt and emotion they are trying to heap onto you.

Like any skill, these strategies are the most difficult to do when you first begin. Building emotional muscle takes load and repetition, just like the physical kind of strength. There will be pain. Move past that and accept it as a natural part of change and personal growth.

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